Disenfranchised grief is a term that was coined by Dr. Ken Doka, a licensed mental health counselor and expert in grief. He defines disenfranchised grief as, “Grief that persons experience when they incur a loss that is not or cannot be openly acknowledged, socially sanctioned or publicly mourned.” This list of examples is long, but there is also a danger for losses experienced now in the time of Covid-19 for grief to become disenfranchised.
Anticipatory grief refers to a feeling of grief occurring before an impending loss. Typically, the impending loss is the death of someone close due to illness, but you may be feeling it if someone you love is sick – or you’re worried about them becoming sick while you’re physically distanced from them. Anticipatory grief can feel as big as regular grief.
Your feelings are valid, important, and real – and there are supports available for dealing with them. Sometimes learning that what you’re feeling is grief and that it’s normal can be helpful.
Related to Covid-19 Social Contact Restrictions
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10 Ideas for Funerals and Memorials When You Can’t Be Together
How to Livestream a Funeral or Memorial Service
Funerals & Dying In Absentia: Inspiration & Tips During Covid-19
Burials & Funerals Under Covid-19
Jewish Grief and Mourning during the Covid-19 Coronavirus Pandemic
Covid-19 Grief Resources for Children
Pandemic Resources for Families Facing End of Life
Dying at Home During a Pandemic
Pre-existing and/or Re-arising Grief
Reasons Your Grief Feels Worse Right Now
Please Don’t Minimize the Death of Older Adults
Grieving the Death of an Elderly Loved One https://whatsyourgrief.com/grieving-the-death-of-an-elderly-loved-one/
Refuge In Grief: Life Gone Sideways?
That Discomfort You’re Feeling Is Grief
There Are No Five Stages of Grief
Grief, Covid-19, and Missing My Person – Am I Normal?
Grief Out Loud – Dougy Center for Grieving Children Podcast, Episode 139
General Grief and Mental Health Support During Crisis
Taking Care of Your Mental Health During Coronavirus
Talking About Death During Covid-19
Opinion: It’s Time to Talk About Death
How to Support a Grieving Friend
How to Make Your Estate Plan During the Coronavirus Pandemic
Mental Health and Coping During Covid-19
This guide was specifically developed to address concerns regarding grief during the Covid-19 pandemic. If you are struggling with legal or employment issues, childcare, housing or food insecurity, workers compensation, paying medical or utility bills, substance use disorders, mutual aid resources, or other concerns, check out this Philadelphia Covid Resource Guide.
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